Thoughts on the 2017 dating scene:
I’m over it.
I arrived on the dating scene at 21 years old. After not
being on a date since I was 14 and being with the same person for three years shy
of a decade.
But let’s get to the embarrassing stuff. Single ladies you
are not alone.
I’m about to go Mean Girls Burn Book.
Dating Disasters over the years? YES. Plenty.
Most recent: Dumped via text after being in a relationship
for a week.Then he's with another woman less than 24 hours later publicly on
social media. After I was being told so many things. Promising things. Like
"you are the one for me" things. "I see us in the future"
things. Our relationship was made FaceBook official, so that's really official
right? Photos and everything. Which he removed within five minutes. If it feels too good to be true, it usually is. I need some laughing
emojis.
The most embarrassing date happened a few years ago. I went
out to get pizza with someone. He was a church-goer, which was great to me. We
had mutual friends and attended the same college. It was a pizza dinner date,
so casual conversation, a casual evening. After arriving home I texted him and
thanked him for the meal. I heard nothing back. I thought it was strange, but
shrugged it off and thought maybe he didn’t like me. Then I was woken up by my
phone ringing at MIDNIGHT. It was him. I answered the phone and he immediately
said, “Sera, we need to talk.” We had been on one date mind you, so I had no
idea what he wanted to talk about. I said, “Okay, what about?” He replied with,
“God told me you are not the one for me.” I was in complete shock. I wasn’t
asking the guy to marry me. We just had ONE dinner. ONE SLICE OF PIZZA. ONE
DATE. ONE FACE TO FACE CONVO. I was taken aback and didn’t know if I should be
mad or laugh. I didn’t know what to say, so I simply said “Thank you for
telling me.” I am too nice. He basically just told me the creator of the
universe told him after one date with me that I was not his soul mate.
Gentlemen, if God tells you this, don’t tell your date. He probably doesn’t
want her to know that after the first date or ever actually. I would have been
better off with a “no text back”. And he recently requested me on SnapChat and
watches every one of my stories (INSERT MORE LAUGHING EMOJIS).
Men are slick. I joined a dating app in 2014 and matched
with a man I thought was a lot younger. A friend asked how my dating life was
going and I told him the man’s name. He asked me to send him a photo. He was
using the same dating site at the time. So I sent the photo. I got a text back
saying, “That is not his real name. And he is very much married. Go look at his
Facebook. I work with him.” I searched his REAL name on Facebook and I got the
“User Not Found” notification. I had someone else search him, and yes he was
married. He had blocked me on Facebook, so I wouldn’t find out. He was also
using old photos on the app and claiming to be ten years younger. I confronted
him about it and he was in complete denial. I ended up deleting the app. I had
too many creepies on there. One man I didn’t even match with, looked me up on
Facebook and at the end of his message said, “Promise to message me back?” No,
but I sure enough promised the block button.
Also, if you are on your iPhone at dinner then you pull out
another phone and it's one that flips open, I am asking for the check. Don't
tell me it's your work phone, because I'm automatically assuming it's your TRAP
phone...(Yes, this happened too.)
There's been one man I meshed well with to the point of a very
serious relationship, but every woman who didn't want him before me wanted him
while we were together. That's how some women are. They turn a man down until
he's with another female, and all of a sudden they are interested in him.
Unfortunately, he took them up on their offers. And I didn't find out until
later, thanks to a friend looking out for me with her iPhone camera.
These people I am referring to I have thought are well-rounded
educated people. People I thought surrounded themselves with other well-rounded
educated people. Until I know their personal lives. Like a horse vet wanting to
fight me over a man with a masters degree. Are we back in middle school
middle-aged people? No, dating a man in his 30's doesn't mean you're dating a
mature man. Contrary to popular belief.
You don't have to be a trouble-maker or drama lover for these things to happen to you. I stay to myself and mind my own business. I'm not going to let people run over me, but I have never started trouble just to start it. What is meant to be an innocent journey of finding Mr. Right can end up turning into a chaotic fiasco very quickly. I've found this out over a very short period of time.
I’ve been stood up. I’ve been ready to be picked up for a date, and no
one show. It is really hard to find decent human beings these days. Then my
friends tell me, “Don’t sweat it, you can have anyone you want!” No girl, it’s
not that simple. Especially when you are a single mom like me. I want the right
person to come into my son’s life, and I do not want to waste my time. My dad
recently told me to join Tinder or Match.com.
PERHAPS NOT.
Well, maybe. My sister met her hubby on Tinder....
Good luck ladies on your quest to find the one worth spending the rest of your life with. We're all going to need it.
